Jesus taught forgiveness throughout His ministry. Read the Lord's Prayer in Matthew 6:5-15. We need to realize we need to forgive our spouse or anyone who has sinned against us. "But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." Matthew 6:15
When Bob was gone, the Lord gave me a scripture regarding forgiveness. At that particular time I was having trouble with forgiving Bob and having faith. The Lord gave me this scripture:
"Have faith in God," Jesus answered. "I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea, and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what He says will happen, it will be done for him. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins." Mark 11:22-26
"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." Colossians 3:12-14
We must forgive our spouses before we can deepen our personal relationship with our Lord. We also must forgive our spouses if we want the Lord to forgive us! We especially must forgive our spouses if we want them to come back home. We have to be able to love them unconditionally.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
I Corinthians 13:4-8
Did you notice that the famous "Love scripture" says "keeps no record of wrongs?" I had a computer mind, I remembered all of Bob's past sins regardless if I had forgiven him. I had to ask the Lord to go to the "Trash bin" and push delete on my memory. What a victory day for me and with the Lord. I received a total peace and release for me keeping records of Bob's sins. Every night I would tell God I forgive Bob for all that he has done wrong today. Then I would pray and claim my scriptures with his name in them. Bob's sins were between Bob and God.
These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.
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